the jacques do DC - part two

continued.

i told myself i would wrap up all my lose ends on the blog before 2014. so here goes...

waking up the morning knowing you're about to step foot into the nation's capitol and ask them to support you...just a little ol' me from the midwest is almost the most intimating thing i've done. but through out the whole process, i try to put things in some sort of perspective that makes some sort of sense. just something.

that morning, while we got dressed and ready to go, i could definitely feel my heart beat a little fast than normal and little butterflies surrounded my insides while crazy thoughts ran through my head. 

i remember just telling myself to be honest, sincere, and just share our story. for those that know me, know that is often times hard for to speak about things especially when I'm not 100% positive that i actually know that I'm saying. so this was tough. what we would be talking about would be personal and important and directly effect my parents and i. 

we met the rest of the members who would be lobbying on the lobby of our hotel room. we immediately ran into a mother and friend who we had met in june at the neda kc walk. always nice to see familiar faces in such an unfamiliar place. 

i laugh now because as we stood in the lobby of our hotel, we watched outside as it poured. hard. our first appointment was at 11:30 and we'd have enough time to catch a bus. of course it would be raining.

we caught a bus alright. and they dropped us off at the wrong building which meant in order for my parents and i to make our 11:30...we had to walk. in the pouring rain. without umbrellas. or coats. 

.and we did. we persevered. for brandon. 

as we walked a good half mile, i remember looking over at my dad walking besides and he was soaking wet..so wet in fact there were rain drops dripping off the end of his nose. i like to imagine brandon sitting in heaven watching us three gallivanting around an unknown city to lobby for HIM while he watches it rain and pour on his. i'm sure he had a nice laugh.

we finally made it to our first appointment 30 minutes late and of course, their office happened to be participating in the government shutdown occurring at the same time so no one was in their office anyways. typical. 

we met with our other two appointments and i couldnt have been more excited about how they turned out. we got two agreements for our support on the caucus and bill coming and they were so sincere and friendly. 

in one of our meetings, my dad just started talking and everyone just looked. at that moment, i was so proud of us three and the work we were doing. 

it was that moment i realized my parents & i have two choices to continue living in our lives. we can sit, sulk and pity ourselves for the tremendous loss we have endured OR we can choose to change it, leave brandon's name as a legacy and help others. 

while changing it hasn't been the easiest road, it certainly is the most rewarding. 

thursday evening, we had a reception with other families and friends affected by eating disorders. it was a wonderful experience to be with others who had lived the same or close experience we had. 

on friday, we spent the day in seminars and learning more than i could have ever imagined about eating disorders. 

i feel so blessed that we had the opportunity to be apart of the conference and will hold on to the experience for years to come. i am curious to learn more and network with others....i think my career path may somewhere along the road..lead me back. 

for now, we embrace what we have learned, fill our hearts with the change for others, and walk each step of the journey for brandon. always. 

{i encourage you to be passionate. about anything. and pursue it.}

you have the power to change. 

the jacques' do DC - part one

details.

you know that saying...you never notice things until they're not there? that is so true. 

you know how i know?

i can count on one hand how many times my family has gone out to eat and when asked how many...we say 3. 

i can't tell you how many times we've actually eaten at the kitchen table in the last 2.5 years because no one wants to see the empty chair. 

i can't explain the pain it felt to get a new phone and be missing brother from my favorites. 

the list goes on, christmas, birthdays, riding in a car....four is just a much better number. 

i knew all these things were going on...until our trip to washington, dc. you see...i have been fortunate enough to have ryan in life before losing my brother and since losing my brother, my ryan has coincidently filled that very important fourth spot: dinner table, restaurants, back seat of the car. 

until washington, dc. no ryan wasn't going. just me. my mom. my dad. 

for weeks until the trip, i was fine...it was until the very day we were leaving and my parents were picking me up from work, that i had a lump in my heart and heaviness in my heart. this was just one more DETAIL & REMINDER of why were leaving on "vacation". 

sitting in the back of my dad's truck on the way to airport is when reality hit. 

heather- this isn't vacation. you are going to washington, dc because you've been raising money for the eating disorder association so no one has to suffer your pain or your brandon's pain when dealing with a life threatening illness. 

reality can be a real B. 

with that said, i was excited to spend this quality time with my parents for this purpose. it had been a while since the three of us had spent time together just being us. life gets busy and i am thankful we were granted this opportunity on so many levels; making a change...amazing; sharing the experience with my parents...even better! :)

 it was really late when we arrived in washington. our first adventure started with a taxi ride to our first hotel. it was crazy, weaving in and out of traffic with us three in the back seat...kind of like when you're a kid and you purposely let the curves through you around the back seat to smash the other person....yep..that happened...

we arrive at our first hotel (i won't mention names...read on)....it was beautiful..right down the street with an amazing view of our nation's capitol...we arrive to our room. and my dad quote "this place is made for midgets" between that and our slap-happiness from being awake for.  ev.   er. we laughed until our stomachs hurt...

before we knew it we were outside, walking the streets of washington, dc. with our luggage (thank GOD for luggage that rolls nicely) on to our next stop..

finally, a warm bed & a goodnight's rest...

after all, no pressure...tomorrow we would be at the capitol meeting with senators and representatives...try to sleep with THAT running through your head.

goodnight. 

heather

keep peddling...

always try again.

do you remember when you were a kid and your parents were teaching you to ride a bike? You'd take off with their hand on the back of seat, guiding you along, until you got the groove, you'd be so thrilled that you're actually going and then...they'd let go and for the first couple times...you'd eventually slow down and the tip over. parents are there when you tip, telling you to get back on the bike, and try again. it wasn't always easy, because you know there could be a chance you might fall again and so many thoughts run through your mind..

will it hurt?

could it be worse?

what if they're not there to catch me?

will i ever be good at this?

as odd as it sounds, i compare myself to the same nervous, scared child with this blog. 

my last post was introducing my readers  okay just like 4 people, about our invitation to washington, dc. for the national conference for NEDA. in my heart, i know this next post needs to be about the trip...and...

as i type, my heart is pounding and my hands are shaking..... and it took my mom texting me asking me if she's missed my latest blog update that i realized...i have to get back in the bike...

guys, i am nervous. i am that child getting back on that bike. 

will this update hurt? yes it will...but i have to remember I'm doing this for my brother. 

could it be worse? there are things in life that can always be worse. i choose to be thankful for this rocky, not so glamours beautiful life He has given me. 

what if they're not there to catch me? i have amazing parents and there are always there, but importantly i have a wonderful God who catches me when i fall emotionally and spiritually. 

will i ever be good at this? ha. I'm not sure but i know that something always brings me back to this. 

for now, that's all i have....just an introduction to how i'm feeling for the upcoming post. 

i'll get back up and try again, i promise...right now...it's too hard. 

love,

heather

*shimmer of light & hope*

HIS plan.

last spring after attending a bible study with my mom and her friends, i started reading not a fan. by kyle idleman. when talking to friends; i like to describe this book as "getting down to the nitty-gritty" theres not maybes or what ifs...he spells it out for you. "Do you follow Jesus or are you just a fan of him?" some of it is tough to digest, but an amazing read and definitely one to keep close by. 

my favorite phrase from the book says this "....followers of Jesus understand that it's a journey they were never to make alone. Instead we keep in step with the Spirit and he supernaturally gives us the strength and the power we need."

it was the day i read that, that i finally truly admitted to myself i needed to be a follower, and not a fan. i was exhausted of doing things on my own. after losing my brother, and reading through his bible, i knew that he had made a wonderful relationship with Jesus...it was comforting to read through the highlighted versus and it was almost like brandon was telling us to not be scared or afraid; he was in a much better place. he was telling me all about his relationship with Jesus through pink & yellow highlighted marks. 

while, i can find comfort in that, there are moments {more than id like to admit} that while he is a place we dream of going, there are many many selfish moments where i wish he were here. however, with that quote in my head; i knew we are not in this alone. no matter how sad. depressed. anxious. happy. we. are. not. alone. God has HIS plan...for all of us. while, we sometimes we choose to be mad for a little bit....

i promise; a day will come when he will shed light & hope. just hang there. 

you're probably wondering where this is going....

fast forward to July 26th - i was at the lake on our annual girls weekend trip. one would think that while it was a "girls weekend", why would i miss brandon this weekend more than any other weekend? 

its because sitting around with these girls who have been my world for years - close family and friends. we share stories of family and things we've done the past year - catching up. while, i love hearing those stories...we don't have those recent stories. there is always a hole in our stories...something missing. sometimes i still can't fathom that he is gone. there are moments when it's like i have forgotten and it suddenly strikes my heart like a flash of lightening. so intense that sometimes; i literally lose my breath. 

i think know God was watching my especially close during these moments of sadness behind smiles while enjoying others stories...

you know how i know? i received a phone call from a New York number. thought nothing of it but they had left a message. long story short, no service  = not checking my voicemail until i arrived back in kansas city. 

"hi, this is for heather, my name is terry and i am chief executive officer at the national eating disorder association. the donation came in from the brandon m jacques foundation and i wanted to reach out to you and have a conversation with you on a number of different levels........"

while this doesn't seem like a big deal to a lot of people, it was to me. however, i was sure she was calling to say thank you and chat a few minutes....

i took the opportunity to call because while i knew it was just a short thank you..it was a moment i could talk about brandon and share what a wonderful man he had become with a perfect stranger. id take that moment any day. after all, he deserves such a legacy. 

i was right, that phone call returned to terry was a thank you....but so much more than i could have imagined. 

she wanted to personally call me and extend an invitation to the NEDA Conference Weekend in Washington, DC October 10-12; with an invite to the Federal Lobby Day. paid. covered. 

what? while, it doesn't seem exciting to most; i was beyond thrilled. i get to lobby. stand up for what i believe in. share my brother's story. learn & become educated on eating disorders. at our nation's capital.

i couldn't dream of a better legacy. 

so, with that, my parents & i will be headed to Washington, DC to lobby and take on our adventure. i am excited. nervous. anxious. and all with a heavy heart....

but here's what i am saying...while, we can take what happens in our life and be miserable because we don't like the outcome...we can also just know this is a journey we were never meant to make alone...and just hang on.

i believe this is my shimmer of light & hope in God's master plan for me. there's a reason this is happening. at this time. for this cause. 

i choose to keep walking step in step to find the rest of the light in my journey called life. i am not in control. i must just be a follower down the road. and i am totally okay with that role. 

i promise to update the blog after our trip. 

wish us luck. 

love,

heather

summer faves.

share time.

with the end of summer quickly approaching...waaa! i found it most appropriate to share some of my favorite things this summer. i love all of these items, so they are listed in no particular order.

1. Advocare Products

I started using Advocare products on a daily basis and have loved all that I have tried. I won't ever give up coffee 100% but i have surely cut down my intake by leaps and bounds. The spark is a great product for energy without the jitter or crashing effect. I started using Catalyst which helps maintain muscle during exercise and weight loss. It goes great with the Spark. I love spark in the Watermelon, Citrus, and Mandarin Orange flavors. Yummmmmyyy and healthy! If you're interested in trying some too, visit my site. https://www.advocare.com/130723839/default.aspx

2. Ulta Bronze Tinted Self Tanning Suncreeen SPF 15

This product has been amazing. It has an SPF 15 and a tint so it can be applied daily or when you're ready for fun in the sun. It is reasonably priced and right now they are running a special BOGO 50% off. I highly recommend this product. However, if you're using it just for the tint...you could be disappointed. It didnt tint as well as I had thought. But I loved the sunscreen part and the fresh fragrance of this product.

3. ESSIE White Bright Pen

Using this pen on dry and clean nails, it brightens up your natural nail look. In just seconds, my nails had immediate shine and brightness to them for the summer natural look. I got mine at Beauty Brands on clearance for $4.50. Quick and Easy must have for a natural manicured look. 

4. Altar'd State at Zona Rosa

This store is amazing. It is what I would call a Christian Boutique filled with almost anything you could think of. Candles, Signs, Jewelry , Clothing, TOMS, absolutely anything. Their prices are very reasonable and their products are amazing. It is a perfect store to find the perfect gift for ANYONE. 

5. Loafers

I can't wait to wear my new loafers this fall. I found mine at Nordstrom Rack for an amazing price and they are definitely something that will stand out amongst the rest. I have my eye on a few other cute pairs from Target & Dillards as well. Best of all, they are so comfortable and sophisticated.

6. Mayeblline Baby Lips

This is the softest product I have found. It is light and shiny! It comes in many different colors and they are all fabulous. 

I know this isn't the most exciting post, but I love sharing great product for great deals. What are some of your favorite things this summer?

never.say.never.

[new adventure.]

i have never been the healthiest person. i won't deny that i don't love hot wings, french fries, and chips and salsa...but it was a day at the end of 2012 where i was exhausted, unmotivated, and just tired all the time. 

yes, diet is important. but i am 27 wishing i was still 24 and shouldn't be drained all the time...shoot, i don't even have kids yet!

i remember a good friend and coworker a couple years ago suggesting i try a product by Advocare called Spark. she said she was able to replace Spark for her daily sodas and it was just what she needed to get through the long days of teaching and also provides healthy vitamins and minerals. 

i never tried it. the sample sat around. 

fast forward to Jan 2013...i had committed myself to a healthier lifestyle. i don't want need to be skinny. i want to be healthy and thats all that mattered. 

i committed myself to hitting the gym 3-4 times a week and watching what i was putting in my body. this included sodas and coffee. in march, i decided i would drop it cold turkey. 

my body his a stage of detox with terrible headaches and it was then, that i realize just what all this fake caffeine was doing to my body.

i called my good friend and ordered a canister of Spark. Spark has replaced my daily sodas and though, i will never give up coffee for good...i can say that i don't drink it everyday...it is more of a treat and i drink smaller portions when i do. 

i have seen a change in my energy and focus levels. i am not drowsy or exhausted. i have the energy i craved to enjoy this beautiful life i've been given.

..which leads me to my next part...after much thought, i decided i wanted to share my love for these Advocare products with others...

last wednesday, we started a new journey. we have officially become Advocare distributors; in hopes, that we can share these wonderful products with others. 

{cheers to new, healthy, and energetic journeys!}

join us!

check out the products and stories here.

https://www.advocare.com/130723839

email me, call, or Facebook if you'd like to try samples of the Spark {in delicious Mango Strawberry} or SLAM. 

{no more m.i.a}

updates...

the thing i absolutely love most about summer  July is that i get to spend everyday the way that i want. no worries about whether today is sunday or thursday or if i need to work the next day. i simply go with the flow and take full advantage of each day ive been given. its crazy but you dont realize how much time is spent planning, doing, going, and being so busy during the school year that you forget to enjoy the simple pleasures of life. 

so my simple pleasure today...updating my blog. 

because, i dont care there is laundry piled in our closet or there's no groceries...because i have all the time in the world {for july} and i can get to whenever i please. aaahhhh....

its relaxing and comfortable. 

{may}

may was a great month. i finished up wrapping up my 4th year of teaching. one of my friend's introduced their sweet baby boy beckham into the world  on may 23rd and summer was just around the corner. 

{june}

june was crazy busy and i loved every moment of it. 

i started teaching 1st grade summer school. {praise you teachers of the true elementary age. you are truly saints. i was lucky to make it a mere 20 days and i don't know how you do it, but god bless you.}

much of early june was planning final touches for our 2nd annual golf tournament. 

june 12, my dear friend jeni and her husband brandon, welcomed a sweet baby girl named Zoey into this world. 

june 15 in general was a busy day. 

NEDA just so happened to be sponsoring a walk in here KC, and it being my brother's birthday...we truly felt like it was meant to be. it was an amazing and humbling experience being out there with our family and so many other people that have had their lives affected by eating disorders. there were so many emotions that day. excitement, sadness, motivation, worry, fear...it was just a really neat day. 

on brandon's 21st birthday {june 15, 2011} just a few months after he went to be with Jesus, my family and i started the tradition of releasing 4 balloons on his birthday. 3 white and 1 blue. there is something calming and heart wrenching about this tradition, but i love it and will never stop doing it. this year, we released our balloons at the walk site instead at my parent's house. 

after the NEDA walk, ryan and i made the trip to the lake for his family reunion. it was wonderful to get away just for a day. 

june 20 - my teammate of 4 years and close friend caitlin and her husband joe welcomed a handsome baby boy into their world. Calvin is already a ladies man. 

june 22 was our 2nd annual Brandon Jacques Classic. we had a new venue this year and everything turned out fabulous. we had 135 golfers and were surrounded by family and friends who not only love us, but love Brandon too. we are so grateful for each of those people. we look forward to another great event next year. 

{the tournament deserves a post of it's own with pictures..coming soon}

it's not much and it's not exciting to everyone, but thats what i've been doing the last month or so...now that i have a little bit of down time...im hoping to stay caught up a little more. 

what is your favorite thing about summer time?

love,

h